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  • Writer's pictureKelly Minter

Deconstructing Christianity and Finding Authenticity

Updated: Aug 24, 2023

Hey there, friends! 🌟

If you're in that delightful age bracket of 25 to 45, and you grew up steeped in the teachings of Christianity but now find yourself questioning it all, then trust me, you're in good company. Welcome to the wild, exhilarating journey of deconstructing your faith and rediscovering your authentic self!

Who Am I Now? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

Breaking away from the religious beliefs that shaped your early years can be like shedding an old skin. Suddenly, you're faced with a lot of 'whos' and 'whats' that demand your attention. Who am I now, without my Sunday sermons and Bible study groups? What do I really believe in? What are my values?

The struggle is real, friends. And it's okay to feel a little lost. Deconstructing your faith isn't a sprint; it's a marathon. So, grab your running shoes and let's dive into this exciting expedition of self-discovery.

Shedding the Guilt 🙏

One of the first hurdles on this path is untangling the guilt. Growing up Christian often means being steeped in a culture of sin vs redemption. But guess what? You don't need saving from your curiosity. Questions are not sinful/unfaithful/wrong. You have the right to question the things you have been told.

But then comes the guilt, right? It's perfectly normal to feel guilty for daring to question your faith, but remember, it's your right to explore and evolve your beliefs. That guilt? It can take a backseat on this journey.

While we are at it, release yourself from guilt over things that are other people's burdens to carry. Religion makes us one another's keepers in ways that are just NOT healthy. Release yourself from the guilt and pressure of living up to the "shoulds" in your life, and of having to answer for other people's wrong doing. It is not your fault, or your responsibility.

Connecting with Like Minds 👫👬

Finding your tribe is essential. Seek out communities, both online and offline, of people who've embarked on this deconstruction journey. Trust me; you're not alone! Sharing your experiences with others who understand can be incredibly liberating.

Rebuilding Your Belief System 🧩

As you deconstruct, you *might* find that some pieces of your old beliefs still fit. Others might need a bit of reshaping. Many of them you may toss out completely. And there is nothing wrong with that! Remember, it's all about creating a belief system that feels right for YOU.

Read, explore, and engage with different perspectives. Talk to the people who have done this already. Explore what motivated you to have your original (or any) belief system in the first place.

You'll be amazed at how this process can broaden your horizons and deepen your understanding of the world and your experiences.

Embracing Your Authentic Self 💃🕺

Ultimately, deconstructing from Christianity is about finding your authentic self. It's about understanding your values, your spirituality (if you choose to have one), and your place in this big, beautiful, loud, confusing, diverse world.

You're not defined by your past beliefs; you're defined by the choices you make today. So, embrace your unique journey, quirks, thought patterns and past, and let it shape the beautiful person you are becoming.

In Conclusion 🌈

Deconstructing from Christianity can be a tumultuous ride. But remember, it's YOUR ride, and it's leading you to the most authentic version of yourself. Embrace the questions, the doubts, and the discoveries.

As you navigate this journey, don't hesitate to seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed. Therapists and counselors can provide invaluable support during your deconstruction process.

Anchored Counseling is currently taking on new clients in person in their St Augustine office or online. Check out the client portal or our home page to request an appointment. .

So, here's to all you courageous souls who are challenging the status quo, asking the tough questions, and choosing to live authentically. You're not just deconstructing; you're rebuilding your own masterpiece. Cheers to the journey ahead! 🥂🌟

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