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  • Writer's pictureKelly Minter

5 Ways to Keep the Love Alive When Your Best Friend and Your Lover are the Same Person

Updated: Oct 5, 2023

Hey there, friends! Today I'm thrilled to dive into a topic that's near and dear to my heart: the magic of romantic partnerships between two women, where your best friend and partner are one and the same. It's a unique and beautiful journey, and one my wife and I have navigated for many, many years filled with shared secrets, laughter, and a love that transcends boundaries. So settle in, get a cup of tea or a glass of whatever you'd like, and let's talk about how to keep the spark alive while also preserving that incredible friendship in your relationship.

  1. Communication is Queen 👑: In any relationship, communication is key. When you are in a romantic partnership with your best friend, it's even more crucial. Make it a point to talk openly about your feelings, desires, and concerns. Create a safe space where both of you can express yourselves without judgment. Remember, being best friends means you already know each other deeply, but no one is a mind reader! Keep those lines of communication wide open with "airport" rules: If you see something, SAY something. Pro-tip: Set aside regular time for "heart-to-heart" chats, where you can check in on each other's emotional health and well-being. It's like your own version of therapy

  2. Keep the Adventure Alive 🗺️: The beauty of being with your best friend is that you likely share a sense of adventure (whatever that looks like for you). Continue to explore new places and experiences together. Whether it's trying out a new hobby, going on spontaneous road trips, or planning a surprise date night, keep the excitement alive. This shared sense of adventure will not only keep your relationship fresh but will also remind you why you fell in love in the first place. Pro-tip: Create a "relationship bucket list" together. It's a fun way to dream up new adventures and goals you'd like to accomplish as a couple. When you check things off, celebrate that somehow!

  3. Respect Each Other's Space 🎯: Being best friends means you likely spend a lot of time together, but it's vital to respect each other's personal space. Remember that you're both separate people with your own interests, passions, and friendships. Allow each other the freedom to nurture these aspects of your lives. This will enhance your sense of self and also prevent the relationship from becoming too intense (suffocating). Pro-tip: Schedule regular "me-time" where you each have the space to do your own thing. This could be a solo outing, a hobby, or simply a quiet night in to recharge.

  4. Date Nights are a Must 🕯️: Don't forget to keep the romance alive with regular date nights. Yes, you might already know each other better than anyone else, but that doesn't mean you should stop dating! Plan special evenings or weekends where you focus solely on each other. It could be a fancy dinner, a picnic in the park, or even a cozy movie night at home with all the popcorn and cuddles. Don't wait until you feel disconnected to do this! Set it up weekly or every other week. Pro-tip: Take turns planning surprise date nights for each other. It adds an element of surprise and keeps the anticipation alive.

  5. Embrace Change and Growth Together 💏: Life is a constantly changing journey, and so are you as individuals (and as a couple). Embrace change and growth together. Support each other's dreams and ambitions, even if they take you in different directions temporarily. This not only strengthens your bond but also ensures you're growing together, not apart. Pro-tip: Celebrate each other's milestones, whether they're personal or professional. Your successes are shared joys, and your support means the world. It's ok to brag about your partner!

In the end, being in a romantic partnership with your best friend is a gift like no other. Cherish it, nurture it, and remember that the love and friendship you share are the pillars of your beautiful relationship. Keep these tips in your back pocket as a reminder, and may your love story continue to bloom with laughter, understanding, and endless affection.

Here's to a lifetime of love and friendship, dear friends. 🌈💖

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