Kelly Minter

Finding out your partner was unfaithful is one of the most destabilizing things that can happen in a relationship. One moment you have a foundation. The next, you’re not sure what was ever real. The thoughts and images won’t stop looping. You can’t sleep. You have so many questions, and maybe you ask them, but none of them seem to have actual answers. You’re flooded with feelings every time their phone buzzes or your partner walks out of the room. This is called betrayal trauma. For queer...

Do you think it's possible to love your dog too much? I mean, loving your pet is simpler, for sure. They are always happy to see you, they don't really need much from you. And even if they get mad at you, they get over it so fast. Relationships are never quite so simple. We carry our own stuff into every interaction. We make assumptions about our partner's motivations or about their preferred outcome, and we behave as though those assumptions are correct. We decide what they want to have...

You’re not too late. You’re right on time. Maybe you're 30. Or 47. Or 61. Maybe you're in a marriage that no longer fits. Maybe you were...